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DEAR DEIDRE: HELP! I’m being stalked by a woman at work who has become obsessed with me.

I showed her a little kindness when she was down, but since then she won’t leave me alone.

I’ve tried to back off gently but she clings on like a limpet


I’ve tried to back off gently but she clings on like a limpet

She bombards me with texts and hangs around outside my flat waiting for me.

I am a 33-year-old woman and she is 40.

It all started when I found her crying in the lift. She told me she was having personal problems.

I bought her a cup of tea and, in hindsight, stupidly gave her my number.

After that, we started chatting and I even agreed to meet her once after work for a drink.

But I soon realised she has severe mental health problems, which I told her to see her GP about.


I’ve tried to back off gently but she clings on like a limpet.


She texts day and night. If I don’t reply, she rings, waking me and my boyfriend.

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Last week I turned into my street to find her sitting on a bench waiting for me.

I’m starting to feel frightened. If I tell work, she’ll lose her job.

DEIDRE SAYS: Please block her and tell your company what’s going on.

You need support to deal with this and although it’s unlikely she’s dangerous, her obsessive behaviour is inappropriate and worrying.

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The priority is she gets the medical or psychological support she needs.

Talk to the National Stalking Helpline (www.suzylamplugh.org, 0808 802 0300) for advice.